The core of Christianity is the same as the core of Real Love Principles. This file summarizes the parts of the Christian Bible that speak directly to this core message. NOTE: Requires a PDF viewer.
Excerpt:"...what goes right in a person’s life matters a lot more than what goes wrong."
"Professor Peter Cohen argues that human beings have a deep need to bond and form connections. It's how we get our satisfaction. If we can't connect with each other, we will connect with anything we can find -- the whirr of a roulette wheel or the prick of a syringe. He says we should stop talking about 'addiction' altogether, and instead call it 'bonding.' A heroin addict has bonded with heroin because she couldn't bond as fully with anything else."
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The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE)
"The human 'fight or flight' stress response is a wonderfully useful thing when you're in the forest and meet up with a bear. But what if that 'bear' comes to your home every night."
Belief & Stress
On the topic of belief...
"A belief in something about yourself increases the likelihood of it actually happening. Belief controls your personal health. For example, people who believe stress is harmful are more likely to be harmed by it."
On the topic of stress...
"Here is what most people don't understand about stress. It makes you social. It fine tunes your brain's social instincts. It primes you to do things that strengthen close relationships. It makes you crave physical contact. It enhances your empathy. It makes you more willing to help and support the people you care about. Stress is your body's way of motivating you to seek social support. Stress is nudging you to tell someone how you feel instead of bottling it up. Your stress response wants to make sure you notice when someone else in your life is struggling so that you can support each other. When life is difficult, your stress response wants you to be surrounded by people who care about you."
Here are some videos that when viewed as a set make an interestingly complete message that aligns quite effectively with the principles of Real Love and offers some insights that I haven't been able to find yet within the Real Love community (either because it's not there or because I'm not able to see it).
#1 and #2 are by researchers who present intellectual messages about their findings... with one themed more with an introvert style and the other in an extrovert style. In my opinion, these two videos are really presenting the same core idea, but from different angles of understanding. I found it useful to view both, because each offers something the other doesn't.
Tough Love - Bill Milliken
A video of Bill Milliken... author of the book "Tough Love". He says people didn't apply the concept the way he intended... Wikipedia describes it as being Stern & Harsh with someone.
I haven't read the original book, but I'd like to find a copy of it... or some equivalent.
